Dating: Accordions Vs. Sitars

The accordion is much easier than it looks. Each left handed button is an entire chord, and it’s arranged in an easy-to-memorize pattern. You pick it up, press down, and it booms with harmony. The instrument is constructed that you only need to engage with it minimally to get the song you want out of […]

“Me Too”: on Sexual Assault

I want to preface this by emphasizing that I in no way want to trivialize experiences people have had as victims of sexual assault. All feelings are valid, and it’s ok to feel hurt even at something that might seem trivial to others.   People on my Facebook and Twitter are posting “me too,” which […]

How Taboo Are These Sexual Fetishes?

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Fuckers Vs. Raisers

Disclaimer: Pure conjecture, riddled with a ton of what-ifs – probably none of which are original. One day in a stereotypical medieval town, a bard comes through. This is a very sexy bard, violet-eyed, good with a lute, and experienced in the ways of women. During his short stay he sleeps with four of the […]

The Amory Spectrum

In discussions about monogamy and polyamory, I find I’ve recategorized the two ideas into something that feels more functional for me, and I accidentally try to use them synonymously with the original words. This ends up getting pretty messy, so I’m going to do the obvious thing: invent more words and then explain them! (there’s […]

Filling the Dating Role

A: “You’re looking for someone to fill the position of head software engineer for your company.” B: “That’s right.” A: “What sort of things are you looking for? Good work history? Proficiency in programming languages? Ability to manage?” B: “What kind of employer do you think I am? I mean I’m not against those things, […]

The Enticing Moral Claim

There is a tribe called Jhurk where all sorts of lies are told. Easy ones – “no you don’t look fat in that,” malicious ones – “no I didn’t steal your sheep, a wolf ate it,” and even beneficial ones – “no, invading war chief, I have no one else for you to capture in […]

Are there other genders?

Bob: Gender is real – man and woman. There are two genders. People claiming that there are multiple genders, being third-gender or bigender or whatever – are usually just trying to feel special. Alice: Wait hold on – but gender is a cultural construction in the first place. We associate things like ‘wearing dresses’ with […]

Power Imbalances and Sex

I saw a gif of a woman talking about how women make less than men in the film industry, ending with ‘the only industry where women make more than men is porn!’ Her point was about the objectification and sexualization of women, and that women are only valued as sex objects. And this is true. […]

Going Braless in Saudi Arabia

A few weeks ago I spent seven hours in a Saudi Arabia airport. Minus the international layover lounge, nearly every single woman wore abayas, and the ones who didn’t wore niqabs. They had a separate security line for women in a private room, staffed entirely by female officers. The bathroom signs signaled gender not with […]